How do you respond when someone is concerned about your health?
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Well, since I’m the healthiest I’ve been in my entire life, if someone is concerned about my health, I’m irritated as fuck. I’m the person going in for follow-ups, I’m the one refilling my prescriptions, I’m the one who goes to the pool almost every day, and they’re concerned?! They can go fuck themselves.
Why and if are important factors in someone concerned for your health. Are they concerned for your health? What is their actual concern? Is this a real concern (e.g.; they’re concerned that you’re diabetic and not checking your blood sugar and you are diabetic and not checking your blood sugar)? Or is this a fake concern (“being fat” isn’t a health concern; a sedentary lifestyle may be)?
If you have multiple health problems and they know about them don’t bore them with things they have heard before. (I’m saying this with multiple serious health issues). Most people are being polite. If it’s someone close to you and you have a genuine concern then tell them, but don’t go on and on. I’ve found that being positive about my health more people ask me, and they know I only tell them if it’s something bad. A lot of people ask how you are without really want to know
Mental health matters just as much as your physical well-being.
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i think this song says it all. the woman who wrote it, kim shattuck, who fronted an OC based grunge band called the Muffs, died of ALS last October, shocking everyone as she never went public that she was ill. i think she wrote this song, called “lovely day boo hoo” about her illness and it’s about not wanting a fuss or pity.
“im ok, you’re insane, go away, and be strange, i know you can’t be my hero”
“a lovely day, i try to say, but no one’s listening to me”
and the cover art for that album, imo, is one of the best cover photos i’ve ever seen as it’s the ultimate swan song image. hit me hard when i found out she died cos i was part of that scene back in the day and while i didn’t know her, we’d sometimes be at the same clubs.
see you again one day, kimmy. xx
It depends on the person. If it is an intimate or a close friend, I may describe just how I am doing if I think they are genuinely interestrd. However, since my general health is good, I wouldn’t have much to say. I would just put them at ease about their concern. On the other hand, if it is more an aquaintance then a close friend, “I’m fine, thanks” will do perfectly.
It depends on the state of your health, how much you care to divulge and your relationship to the person who wants to know.
If your husband or best friend wants to know how it went at your doctor appointment, I hope you can answer honestly and fully.
If a nosy neighbor, boss or co-worker wants to know, you can answer anywhere on the continuum from totally honest to a bit vague.
“I have cancer and need surgery next week” to “It’s about what they expected. I’ll deal. If I need anything, I’ll let you know. Thanks for asking.”
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If this person is one of my two best friends, or one of my numerous medical practitioners, I tell them the truth, whether good or bad.
If it’s my family, coworkers, acquaintances, etc.,I fake the smile and say, “I’m fine. And you?”
If it’s true concern, then I’d be grateful, but if they are consistently invading your boundaries then I would tell them to stop
Query why they concerned
Analyse the character asking as depending the type likely will attempt to exploit you when aware vulnerable condition
“Thanks for asking. I feel better now.”
“Thanks for asking. Still hurts every now and then, but I don’t think it’s [or I know it’s not] serious.”
“Thanks for asking. It’s not a very pretty story and I’d rather not talk about it.”
…however else you want. In any case, you could then immediately follow your answer with a question about his or her health — especially if you already know something specific about it. Like: “What about you — has your knee healed yet?” (or whatever). A lot of times, when someone opens with a question about someone’s health, they’re hoping — whether they know it or not — that you’ll ask about theirs, too.
I’d say “Thank you for your concern,” but it may be that this is not the phrase you need, depending on the situation. If someone has been especially thoughtful or has guided you in some way, especially over an extended period, you might thank that person in a more specific way: “I really appreciate all your thoughtfulness and concern about ___ .”
“Thank you for your concern” is usually appropriate in a one-time interaction. For instance, if someone I don’t know tells me that I have a broken tail light on my car, I might say, “Oh! I didn’t know! Thanks for your concern!” but would not say that to someone who had, for instance, helped me though a difficult time or guided me through a process. I’d thank them for what they had done specifically or say, “I really appreciate your help” or “I really appreciate that you have ___” or “Your [thoughtfulness/help/guidance] has meant a lot to me. Thank you.”
It really depends upon what you said to them and they responded with a “thank you for your concern”.
If you offered condolences for a loss they recently suffered such as the death of a loved one then on your part a proper answer would be “she/he was such a lovely person and I still remember when he/she…..”. Another example would be let’s say their son ended up in jail or they or someone close to them did something that you expressed your concern to them about a “thank you for your concern” is merely a polite way of acknowledging your concern but also letting you know that they don’t wish to discuss the matter any further with you and basically its none of your business. Rule of thumb is if you do make any kind of a comment after they have stated they acknowledge and thank you for your concern and they make no other comment that is your cue to get off that topic onto another or wish them a lovely day and walk away.
Mind you, if whatever you expressed concern about directly effects you or your loved ones you have every right to ask them what kind of resolution they have planned to rectify the situation as you are directly involved, effected by it and deserve more than a simple thank you for your concern whether they like it or not – they need to take responsibility for whatever it is that is effecting you.